Overdraft Notice

We have lots of accounts that have nothing to do with the banks.  Our Social Capital accounts are filled by all the emotional and care deposits we have made into our various relationships. Our Nutritional accounts, and Sleep accounts keep our bodies working as they should, and our Resiliency account allows us to weather adversity up to…

Daring Excursions

My last post was on Cinco de Mayo when Joe and I had a beautiful walk in the woods, which were green and bursting with spring lushness. Since then I have been making slow progress on my 2015 intentions, specifically the massive house reorder a’ la Marie Kondo.  My weeks are divided between working at the…

Taking care of our own.

Monday afternoon was sunny and crisply cold, the sky a rich winter blue. I attended the beautiful funeral of my friend Meg. Prayers in Hebrew, and of a more Buddhist nature were recited at the graveside service. Words from Shakespeare, Wendell Berry and a Michigan artist/naturalist Gwen Frostic were spoken. Several people stepped forth with stories from the…

“When sorrows come…”

“There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, Than are dreamt of in your philosophy.”  Hamlet to Horatio These last weeks I have been playing a minor character in the last production in the life of my friend Meg.  She is dying from late stage breast cancer.  I have written before about my views of…

Prodigal Daughter

Yesterday the rains returned, ending our days in the sun for the time being. We came back from our Southwest travels only to dive straight into some needed kinwork. Then last week I was gifted the opportunity to go to Breitenbush for a writing workshop taught by my friend Amy. Even though I had never met the fellow writers in…

An Essay on Transition

“Be kind. Everyone you meet is carrying a heavy burden.” Ian MacLaren We are here for such a short while, and never know when we may be departing.  The sudden death of a friend this past week both hurts my heart, and opens me to being grateful that I am still here. I ache for…

Hell Yeah or No

Here is a bit of a modern proverb on how to negotiate our too busy lives by Derek Sivers, founder of CD Baby!.  It is only 1 minute long and definitely worth watching if you ever find yourself saying Yes to more than you can fit on your plate. http://vimeo.com/25496723   Since my diagnosis many people have offered…

The balm of human kindness…

When my family gathered to intern my father’s ashes in July 2011, I was overcome with the need for more ceremony. His ashes were contained inside a plastic bag within a plastic black box from the funeral home. The unimaginative, and cold hearted priest presented the most monotone and meaningless reading at the graveside you could…

Moving forward

So, we actually decided against changing to the treatment plan outlined in the April Fools post – though we hear it’s working great for some (see 4/1 comments). Tuesday’s final session of chemotherapy went smoothly. Now we’re in recovery mode, and Preparation-for-Surgery mode. Iris is spending extra time horizontal, reading books pertinent to treatment.  We’re planning…

Happy

So a couple of months ago my friend Jan sent me a link to a music video by this guy Pharrell Williams.  As I live under a bit of a rock, pop culture wise,  I am not sure who this guy is – however I have been dancing nearly daily to this song since Jan sent it to…

Resiliency

Early on Dr. Allderdice had me fill out a whole page of questions, and sign it. One of the Questions was “How committed are you to your healing?”  He was asking for a percentage.  I said 100%.  So when I feel whiny about taking 25 pills everyday, or doing hydrotherapy in the shower (which means…

Grateful

Wow. Thank you to everyone who attended last night – we were surprised to see so many venture out in the weather.  What a beautiful event. Grace Episcopal is a gorgeous church, Andrew filled the sanctuary with sweet notes, and Rex held the audience spellbound with the fascinating story of Mozart.  We snuck in at…