The Teeny Tiny world within.

You are what you eat. Food is Culture. The way to a person’s heart is through the stomach. Let food be thy medicine. Food is Love.  You eat first with the eyes… and on and on. Everyone eats, and we have countless adages about food that attest to this.  The question is how can we eat to…

To soothe the savage beast

Music soothes the savage beast. Which is another way of saying it goes right to the core of us.  This is why it is inserted into movies, advertisements and department stores to manipulate us. Music has the direct line to our emotional centers. When is the last time you slowed down to really savor some music? When…

Looking for a Three Legged Cat

There is a most amazing creature living in my house.  She is so beautiful, and funny and fierce.  Sometimes when I see her I think if she can be happy with three legs, I can be happy with one breast. Other times I feel a crushing wave of sadness that her exquisite perfection, her athletic…

“Mama More Berries!”

If you haven’t noticed before I am fairly obsessed with berries, enough so that my firstborn son uttered his first sentence about them.  All the wild berries are frankly one of the best parts of living in the Northwest.  They are like jewels, filled with vitamins and a microcosm of yum.  I love them all, even the…

Loan Sharks and Cat Naps

“Better listen girl to what I’m tellin’ you You better listen girl, or we are through You better stop all your foolin’ around Stop your runnin’ all over town ‘Cause you’re pushin’ too hard Pushin’ too hard on me (too hard)” The Seeds 1966 Crash. Time’s up. Your goose is cooked. I think that I…

Space, the final frontier… for healing that is.

If you read my last post on the five actions of wellness  I mentioned mindfulness – which I define as the deliberate attempt to cultivate a disciplined mind. Essentially attaining a more relaxed state at will.  The goal isn’t to never have intense feelings, the goal is to be able to observe my feelings when they arrive, and to…

On the Emotional Aftermath of Mastectomy.

This is another post from the draft vault. Written May 2014 a few weeks after my mastectomy and never posted. Though I have written more on the theme of this piece since 2014, I post this now, at the two year anniversary of my surgery, in service to all those who are wrestling with their own feelings either in the…

Charging up the Soul Batteries

A few weeks back in the last rays of sun Joe and I took a stroll on the there-and-back-again version of our neighborhood loop. The light was so good I wanted to drink it. We passed only one person in the perfect evening – one of our neighbors, enjoying his own stroll. He alerted us to…

Breast, Singular

I wrote this in early 2015 for submission to The Sun Magazine’s Readers Write section. Topic, Breasts. Though it was not chosen for publication there, I think it is a pretty good piece. (Look here to read the pieces that were chosen.)  So in celebration of the second anniversary of my mastectomy today I give it to all of…

Not by Kale Alone.

As we collaborate to design our life together as a family, we are trying to integrate as many facets that contribute to a thriving life as we can. We are defining a thriving life as balanced, productive, happy, of service, and long. Though we have always eaten lots of kale, we are trying to crank up…

Overdraft Notice

We have lots of accounts that have nothing to do with the banks.  Our Social Capital accounts are filled by all the emotional and care deposits we have made into our various relationships. Our Nutritional accounts, and Sleep accounts keep our bodies working as they should, and our Resiliency account allows us to weather adversity up to…

Little Miracles Everywhere

Yesterday on my blustery walk home I saw what I believed to be a plastic bag caught in the blackberries next to the river.  Just as I began to climb down the rocks to retrieve it, I heard a cheery bike bell in the distance.  Martin! pedaling home from weaving class on his bike.  Announcing, “Never…